Don’t Listen to Me
As you read my writings, you might think I am some kind of expert in the field of masculinity and personal improvement. Let’s clear the air. I’m not that expert.
I don’t have a degree in psychology; I am not another Dr. Robert Glover. (I’m not even certified in his program, although I’d like to be.)
I am not a famous writer on the topics of men’s studies. I am not Mark Manson. I am not David Deida. I am not Lewis Howes. I’m definitely not David De-Angelo. Even Johnny Dzubak? Please! I wish.
Considering the obvious lack of evidence and lack of pedigree, as well as the saturation of advice in the “man-o-sphere”, you probably shouldn’t read a word I write.
So what do I bring to the discussion?
Do Listen to Me
I was not happy with my lot in life. Nothing came to me like the spectacular model lives everyone else seemed to be living. As self-help books became more popular, and internet resources bloomed, like many guys I set out on a journey to fix myself so my life would be better. The pivotal moment came when I realized that it’s not me that needed fixing; I wasn’t broken. I just didn’t have the right human relationship skills. When it comes to manhood and masculinity, I realized I had made almost every mistake a guy could make. Sometimes I’ve done it wrong multiple times, maybe just to drill it into my dumb head.
By now, I know practically everything to avoid doing, and a lot of behaviors worth doing. I’m sharing this knowledge so you don’t make the same mistakes. It’s never too late to learn.
“When a man shares advice, he’s really just talking to his younger self.” I borrowed this idea from Austin Kleon, author of Steal Like an Artist. Yes, I stole it, massaged it and rewrote it as above because the concept seemed so powerful and true for me. Everything I write is advice I wish I had when I was younger, even if just a few years younger.
I am a deep thinker, an avid reader, and seeker of manhood. I tend to make associations that many other people don’t see. I see bigger pictures and related systems. Ultimately I write my thoughts and realizations down for myself. Much of what I write is what I feel was important enough to have changed my life if I knew it earlier. I share it because maybe somebody else can use the same advice, but in a more timely fashion.