About Me

Don’t Listen to Me

As you read my writings, you might think I am some kind of expert in the field of masculinity and personal improvement.  Let’s clear the air.  I’m not that expert.

I don’t have a degree in psychology; I am not another Dr. Robert Glover.  (I’m not even certified in his program, although I’d like to be.)

I am not a famous writer on the topics of men’s studies. I am not Mark Manson.  I am not David Deida.  I am not Lewis Howes.  I’m definitely not David De-Angelo.  Even Johnny Dzubak?  Please!  I wish.

Considering the obvious lack of evidence and lack of pedigree, as well as the saturation of advice in the “man-o-sphere”, you probably shouldn’t read a word I write.

So what do I bring to the discussion?

Do Listen to Me

I was not happy with my lot in life.  Nothing came to me like the spectacular model lives everyone else seemed to be living.  As self-help books became more popular, and internet resources bloomed, like many guys I set out on a journey to fix myself so my life would be better.  The pivotal moment came when I realized that it’s not me that needed fixing; I wasn’t broken.  I just didn’t have the right human relationship skills.  When it comes to manhood and masculinity, I realized I had made almost every mistake a guy could make.  Sometimes I’ve done it wrong multiple times, maybe just to drill it into my dumb head.

By now, I know practically everything to avoid doing, and a lot of behaviors worth doing.  I’m sharing this knowledge so you don’t make the same mistakes.  It’s never too late to learn.

“When a man shares advice, he’s really just talking to his younger self.”  I borrowed this idea from Austin Kleon, author of Steal Like an Artist.  Yes, I stole it, massaged it and rewrote it as above because the concept seemed so powerful and true for me.  Everything I write is advice I wish I had when I was younger, even if just a few years younger.

I am a deep thinker, an avid reader, and seeker of manhood.  I tend to make associations that many other people don’t see.  I see bigger pictures and related systems. Ultimately I write my thoughts and realizations down for myself.  Much of what I write is what I feel was important enough to have changed my life if I knew it earlier.  I share it because maybe somebody else can use the same advice, but in a more timely fashion.